My guess is that you clicked on this blogpost with a sigh of relief, or a sigh of overwhelm – or probably a bit of both, as well as with the hopes of these written words taking some of that away.
I see you.
In our busy world, hustle culture is the norm. We can access (social) media 24/7, are secretly quite afraid to get bored, and are subconsciously (and hell, sometimes consciously!) pressured into always expecting more of ourselves.
Because of all of this, we prioritise the wrong things.
Yes, I’m getting a bit tough-lovey on you now!
I invite you here to take a good look at your to do list, or at your calendar for the next week, and see where there’s space. Where is there space to be? To spontaneously see a friend, or have a moon ritual, or a journaling session?
Where is there space to spend on your own, and/or on what you enjoy?
It might be quite confrontational to realise there is little of that.
But that’s okay. Because just even by acknowledging that, you’re already one step closer to feeling more at ease and connected to yourself.
Go where that confrontation resides.
Because my bet is that part of the resistance you’re feeling towards prioritising yourself is because you don’t want to let others, and their expectations, down.
You are so wired to put others before your own needs and desires that prioritising yourself just feels plain selfish.
Can you relate?
It’s okay. It’s okay. In a world that is hyperfocused on the external, we are conditioned to believe that other people’s expectations, plans and opinions need to come before our own. Especially as women, as we have centuries of submission and inequality to combat at the moment.
It’s okay. It’s okay. And it gets to end here.
You very well know deep down in your heart and body that you are worthy of prioritising. That you are in need of some ‘me time’. That you deserve to feel energised, empowered and damn good about yourself.
I truly believe that when we start prioritising ourselves and our own development, healing and empowerment, we create ripples that we cannot even fathom yet. When we feel better about ourselves, more rooted in who we are and more rested, we are better spaceholders for others (as well as for our future selves). When we know our self care is balanced and meeting us where we need to be, a sudden change of plans, conflict at work or spontaneous outing won’t affect your nervous system so much.
When you start prioritising yourself, everybody benefits.
It may be the least selfish thing you can do today.
How’s that for a mindset shift?
If you’re looking for a quick place to start, I’d suggest grabbing your to do list and replace your first ‘have to’ with one ‘I want to/I desire to’. A.k.a. – replace something like doing your laundry or returning a phone call with something that would feel damn good for yourself, your energy and your nervous system.
Truly, try it. Just for fun. And whilst you’re at it, give yourself permission to enjoy the prioritised self care.
Amazing. Life is meant to feel fucking good, sister. Not medium, not mediocre. Incredibly good.
And you’re one step closer to the most expansive version of your reality yet.
It all starts, and ends, with your to do list.
Trust the ripple effect. And go move mountains.
You’re worthy of it.
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