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Why You Could Be Gaslighting Yourself

September 15, 2021

Your Sensitivity Is Allowed To Be Felt & Expressed

Hi dear one, 

It’s been a while since I’ve put finger-to-keyboard (instead of pen to paper, get it!) to just type away my thoughts here. I’ve created this blog section of my website quite a long time ago now, but other things have received the priority. However, I now find myself in an exciting writing course (more on that later, hopefully!) and more than ever, I’m feeling the writing bug. So here goes… 

As these things often go, I found myself yesterday on Instagram stories, speaking about how these past couple of days I’ve been dismissing my own emotions, thoughts and feelings and putting them down to PMS. 

Okay – perhaps I do feel somewhat more sensitive around my luteal and menstrual phase. But why is that immediately labeled as a bad thing, and something that needs to be suppressed? 

I won’t go off on a tangent on the patriarchal structure of society here (hey, you are probably all too familiar with that yourself!) but what I will say is that because of the framework we find ourselves in, our sensitivity as well as our ever changing emotions (whether these are due to our cycle or not) are seen as weak, undesirable and annoying.

This is a result of a culture in which a 24-hour cycle (the male cycle) is followed to a T and where thus little space is left for feeling, leaning in, listening to oneself, flowing with what the day and week brings. In short, it leaves little space for the feminine to come in and exist.

We can see this clearly when we talk about PMS. The conversation around heightened emotions and hormones is shrouded in negativity: ‘is is that time of the month or something?’ when you speak up at home / in the workplace / anywhere really is something we can probably all relate to. 

And the most disempowering thing is, we have subconsciously internalised this. 

I mean, I say ‘we’, but naturally I’m writing from my own reference point. However, if I can go off on the many DMs I received after those story posts, many of you can relate to this.

We have internalised the idea that the way our hormones affect our emotions is a curse, rather than a blessing. 
We have internalised the idea that feeling a lot makes us seem weak. 
We have internalised the idea that crying over ‘seemingly nothing’ during our last and first phase of our cycle is stupid. 

Okay, John from the office may roll his eyes at you and inappropriately wonder which day of your cycle you’re at – simply because you’ve spoken up or spoken out – but that’s a battle for another day. 
What if when you go home, you take a piece of John with you and roll your eyes at yourself as well? (I know, weird analogy, but I hope you’re still with me!) 

I’d love to invite you to shift your perspective on this – just as I’m doing as we speak. 

What if we’re meant to feel more during certain parts of our month?
What if we’re meant to cry ‘for no reason’ because it clears our energy? 
What if our inner season of Winter (based on your cycle) is necessary to release, recalibrate and restore? 

What if everything we’ve been taught about feminine weakness, emotions and PMS is just another stick we get beaten up with – not in the least by ourselves? 
Then the invitation is there to turn to self love. 

Our current ideas around sensitivity, emotions and PMS are disempowering and limiting. These beliefs keep us from embracing our creativity, our intuition, and the importance of traveling through all phases of the cycle with curiousity and compassion, also (and perhaps especially) the darker ones. Because in the end, that will allow you to thrive in your follicular and ovulation phase. 

Just like the moon, we’re not meant to be the same every day.
Don’t make yourself believe you need to. Don’t make yourself believe you need to be more like John. Perhaps John needs to be more like you. 

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Want to learn more? 🔍⁠
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Society is build in such a way (whether we like it or not) that we don't ever (have to) stop. And when that falls away - we go into a collective state of panic. ⁠
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This is because our collective root Chakra (yes, there is a shared energetic system we're a part of!) has been shaped over the years to find safety in external resources, such as money, technology, time efficiency and appearances. ⁠
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Our collective energetic body has become dependant on resources that we don't have as much control over as we once thought, & this directly affects our individual nervous system, which is still wired from when we lived in caves, hunted for food and had to prioritise our primal survival. ⁠
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Want to learn more? 🔍⁠
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Inner Alchemy, the in-depth 4 month journey, guiding you towards becoming your own Energy Healer, is soon opening for its second round and you can now sign up to the waitlist! ⁠
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Do you feel like your can prioritise your nervous system? 👀⁠ ⁠ Our world is filled with external stimuli, pressures, dependencies and expectations. This makes it hard for us to fully relax, let alone feel a deep connection with ourselves! 😑⁠ ⁠ Society is build in such a way (whether we like it or not) that we don't ever (have to) stop. And when that falls away - we go into a collective state of panic. ⁠ ⁠ This is because our collective root Chakra (yes, there is a shared energetic system we're a part of!) has been shaped over the years to find safety in external resources, such as money, technology, time efficiency and appearances. ⁠ ⁠ Our collective energetic body has become dependant on resources that we don't have as much control over as we once thought, & this directly affects our individual nervous system, which is still wired from when we lived in caves, hunted for food and had to prioritise our primal survival. ⁠ ⁠ 🤩 HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS! : ⁠ You have the agency, power and ability to change this narrative.⁠ ⁠ Healing your own individual root Chakra, and thus your sense of safety, focus on control and beliefs around money, appearance and any other external resource will allow you to rebalance and nourish your nervous system in the way that you need to. ⁠ ⁠ This is not about distancing yourself from the world. This is about reshaping your vision of how the world is actually here to serve you. ⁠ ⁠ Want to learn more? 🔍⁠ ⁠ Inner Alchemy, the in-depth 4 month journey, guiding you towards becoming your own Energy Healer, is soon opening for its second round and you can now sign up to the waitlist! ⁠ ⁠ This means you'll be the first to be able to sign up (and spots are incredibly limited, so it's first come first serve) as well as receive a couple of sweet deals as a thank you for your interest. ⁠ ⁠ Check the link in my bio or story highlight to sign up - and let's heal your energy together! 🧡
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Ever find yourself completely overwhelmed with external pressures, stimuli and opinions? 🙇🏼‍♀️⁠ ⁠ I feel you sister. 🧡⁠ ⁠ Now I invite you to imagine yourself, six months from now, having taken back the agency over your own energy, opinions, nervous system & identity. 😍⁠ You are rooted in who you are, where you're headed and what your intuition is telling you. ⁠ You understand your triggers, wounds and patterning and every day you get to release a little piece of that. ⁠ ⁠ Sounds too good to be true? ⁠ I don't think so! I truly believe we are all worthy of feeling autonomous over where our energy goes, where our attention goes and how we feel about ourselves. Including you. 🔥⁠ ⁠ & this is where Inner Alchemy can come in. The waitlist is NOW open for this exciting 4 months journey in which you learn to become your own energy healer. Learn more about it and sign up for a sweet deal through the link in bio - doors open soon! 💫
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Ever feel like you're stuck with a limiting belief, a recurring pattern, an anxious thought or depressive moment? 😑⁠
⁠
Perhaps it's time to approach your healing journey a little more holistically. To look at your nervous system, your energetic body, and all that you're carrying around unknowingly that is weighing you down. 🙏🏼⁠
⁠
Inner Alchemy is the unique 4-month journey in which you learn to become your own energy healer. You will gain tools for life that will help you with returning patterns and thoughts that just don't seem to be going anywhere (and soooo much more!) 🧡⁠
⁠
The waitlist is NOW open, so check the link in bio and sign up for a sweet deal when the doors open (soon!). x
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